Entry #3. How to Road Trip in 2020

Dear Travel Mates,

You know that feeling when you’re on a trip, and a day feels like a week, a week feels like a month and a month feels like a year? Well, here we are about two weeks in to our trip and it feels like waaaaay longer. So much has happened.

Let’s catch you up from where we left off.

After Asheville we headed to the home of country music – Nashville. On our way we prepared ourselves by listening to Malcolm Gladwell’s fascinating take on why country music makes us cry. (I’m going to analyze this fully in my Baby in Tune blog, if you’d like to subscribe : )

Walking up and down Broadway was exhilarating even during COVID times. The windows to the bars were all wide open and all the venues had performers. I mean ALL the venues, one next to the other. It was as overwhelming as it was thrilling. My eldest considered it a cacophony while my daughter was elated. Later, when we met up with musician friends who brought a guitar, she had music pouring out of her and they jammed into the sunset (to see snippets of this improv follow me on Instagram. It’s hard to attach videos here).

I was so impressed by the level of musicianship in Nashville. I know that’s what it’s known for, but it was still breathtaking to see that even at 6:30, traditionally a bum slot for musicians, the performers kicked ass. I’m sure the 10pm musicians were even more outstanding.

While in town we hit the Country Music Hall of Fame, the Patsy Cline Museum, and the Johnny Cash museum. It was inspiring to be near old artifacts of the greats, and for a second, feel their journey, drive, and passion for music.

On Broadway in Nashville

With friends at the river park in Nashville

Be a Honky Tonk hero.

After Nashville we headed to St. Louis. We got there in the evening, set up the exhausted kids with TV and pizza, and Tsuri and I went out to explore on our own a bit. This was the first time he and I were alone for even a moment since the trip started, and it was NEEDED. One challenge that I didn’t foresee (but duh) was the toll the trip may take on our relationship. With so much moving around, late night drives, transitions, easing the kids’ anxiety, planning, and working in between, we haven’t been the most attentive and patient with each other. Hmm. More on that in another post. 

Date night in St. Louis

We visited the beautiful arch, stumbled on to an RGB vigil which I was so grateful for, and ate at a good restaurant. All without kids complaining that the walk was far, the monument was boring, and the food was spicy. WIN.

The next day we either earned ourselves a spot in the Most Kick Ass Parents Hall of Fame or the Most Irresponsible. Or both? 

My grandpa used to say – “plan your work and work your plan,” and that’s exactly what we did, godammit. We went to not one, not two, but THREE museums, all in the first part of the day, and then drove 5 hours to our next destination. Sigh. I know.

The thing is, we just couldn’t give up on any part of the plan. The City Museum was hands down the best museum I’ve been to. It was a free exploration through caves, slides, aquariums, and castles. 

The Blues Museum was part of our music series – Country in Nashville, Blues in St Louis, Jazz in Kansas City. And the kids got to record their own blues tracks. We had to!

And the Lewis and Clark Museum because we are following their expedition trail. Of course! At night I’ve been reading this book about westward expansion to the kids. And now, leaving from St Louis, we set off on the very same route as Lewis, CLark and Sacajewea. The museum didn’t disappoint. It had life size replicas of their boat, dioramas of key moments including meetings with the indiginous people, and models of the animals and fauna they encountered.

City Museum in St. Louis. None of my photos did it justice. You just have to go.
At the Blues museum where the kids got to record their own Blues tune.
Lewis and Clark (and Sacajewea!) museum.

What great parents!

Then we drove 5 hours. And then the kids were starving. And then we didn’t have a place to stay because we didn’t know if we would actually make it all the way to Kansas City. And then we stopped at McDonalds because we needed to feed the beasts that our kids had become.

What shitty parents!

(side note – the Happy Meal is NOT meant for anyone over 4. Did everyone already know that? If you’re looking for 6 fries, 4 tiny nuggets and a huge cheap toy, it’s the choice for you.)

Anywho, Kansas City was next. Unfortunately it may not get a high rating in my memory. We arrived late, very excited to settle into a place for two full nights. But after we put the kids to bed we opened the curtains and realized our windows looked onto the breakfast room. So that was our three restful days of work and school – in a cave with no natural light. Very Lewis, Clark and Sacajewea- like. Here’s a view from our room. (ps. I complained and got a free night in a hotel to come.)

View from our room in Kansas City.

But Kansas City was very welcoming nonetheless. We roamed the fountains, the WW1 Memorial, and had a lovely picnic dinner with musician friends on the grass who played soccer with the boys and 20 questions with my daughter. 

With friends at the Nelson Atkins Museum lawn.

And then we kept driving and arrived in Nebraska. I’ll fill you in on that next time.

So now after two weeks of traveling we’ve hit a tiny bit of a groove. There is no doubt that COVID makes our trip VERY different from normal times.

Here are some ways we’ve been navigating traveling in 2020:

  1. Before we book any hotel I call and ask these strange questions that I never would have asked in normal times:
    • “What is your percentage of occupancy?”
    • “Can you give us a room that hasn’t been occupied for at least 3 days?”
    • “Does the room have a balcony or window we can open?”
    • “Can you give us a room on a ground floor or low floor?”

We’ve definitely gotten answers that haven’t put us as ease (like – we don’t require masks here, or the hotel was full last night,) in which case we say – not this time y’all. Shout out to Marriott who have been doing a fantastic job of maintaining COVID standards! Yay!

  1. We only go to museums if there are few people there. We either make sure to be the first ones there (the City Museum,) the last ones there (The Country Music Hall of Fame,) or we go to less occupied museums (The Jazz, Blues, and Lewis and Clark Museums.)
  1. We NEVER eat inside restaurants. We do curbside pick up or eat outside if there is enough distance.
  1. Only one of us does shopping, quickly and efficiently.
  1. Obviously we wear masks, wash hands, and sanitize everywhere we go.

Will we get struck by COVID nonetheless? It’s possible. Do I have late night freak outs about the ice cream parlor where too many people weren’t wearing masks while we had to wait on line? Hell yes. Is it still worth it for us to be on this trip? We think so.

Thanks for joining me on this journey. Onward and westward!


Armed, 2020 style.

Check out that expression on my middle.

2 thoughts on “Entry #3. How to Road Trip in 2020

  1. corinne van der borch

    Dear Vered! What a brilliant and bold choice to take a road trip year!
    Charles and I will follow you and Tsuri.
    We’ve been ‘sort of road tripping’ with months here and there but coming back to BK in between.
    We’d love to see where you go and what’s inspiring you.
    Take care, much love corinne

    1. VERED BENHORIN Post author

      Corinne! Come follow us to one of these places! It would be amazing to see you and Charles on the road. Thanks for joining us on our journey xo


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